Looking back, I think this is an area where I could have placed more effort because dating around can be a great tool and great fun. Dating more than one person at a time gives the dater a sense of value. More than one suitor = elevated self esteem = a more attractive you. A more attractive you = more dates = better odds at the love lotto. It also just makes sense. You don’t try on one pair of shoes and call it a day….you try several or many pairs! The other benefit is that it allows you distance and creates perspective. Sometimes that’s hard to create on your own. When you are in the courting phase and spending lots of virtual time together, you are basically a captive audience and it’s easy to get sucked in. The date has total control of his/her portrayal and there is the mystery of it all. Forcing yourself to entertain even just one other date could give you the distance to see things differently, more clearly. The flip side is simple. Most of us find others more attractive when we know there is mass appeal. Sensing that your date has options makes your date that much more appealing. As for hurting someone’s feelings, well of course there will be a time when you’ll have to make the tough decisions, but ultimately, when you are dating there is no code that says it’s has to be exclusive from the start. As long as you are honest, it’s hard to imagine this would be an issue…and if someone you’re seeing is possessive from the start, it might be the warning sign that you’ll have the good fortune to see...from a distance.
Mr.Wrong.
I am insincere, shallow and attached. On a scale of 1 to 10 I'd rate myself a 5 and I am being generous. I am not too good in the sack, and even perform poorly with a partner. If you have low self-esteem and look really hot I am willing to take advantage of you with no regard for your emotions or opinions. If I think your picture is awful I'll tell you so, and I won't be pleasant about it. I already think you could do a little better taking care of yourself and want you to change to suit my own selfish deviant sexual desires. It's not that I am always right; it's that you never are. After all you aren't in a meaningful relationship because you can't hold onto a man. I expect you to bathe me, feed me, pamper me and receive no gratitude for your efforts. I will never tell you my real name, and I have so little respect for you that I won't put much effort into the lies that I will tell you. If we do hook-up it'll have to be at your place, my Ma doesn't like me making a lot of noise in the basement. (I'm only living there until I can find enough phonebooks to prop up the saggy end of my trailer, the beer keeps sliding off my milk crate right now...) If you have kids all the better, I've got a lot of yard work that needs doing. I thought about adopting a kid from the Honduras because I heard they already know a trade and I need new clothes. Face it, I am the worst thing that could happen to you and you are a fool if you think I will ever change. So I guess I am a lot like the last few guys that treated you poorly and cheated on you. Your friends will hate me and your family will never get the chance to meet me. (Unless you have a hot sister who is really easy, her maybe.) Listen, you may have made some bad choices in the past, but I will make those look like brainstorms. You will regret every second that you waste on me and cry for endless hours at the wreckage of human life you have devolved into. By the way, that blouse you love so much makes you look fat and those pants make your thighs look like a collection of overly-ripe cottage-cheese. I can only imagine the smell, but perk-up I smell even worse. PICTURES ON THE WAY: Me drinking a beer; Me with shirt off flexing; me looking angry and flipping-off camera; me standing by sports car; web-cam shot of me with my bed unmade and a messy room in the background; me sitting on a motorcycle; me next to a hot disinterested looking girl; me in a crowd with my face circled; me holding a gun over a dead animal; me holding a fish; me holding a musical instrument I can't play; me cuddling with a pit-bull pup; me taking my own picture in the bathroom mirror; me with my arm stretched out taking my own picture; the mandatory nude waist down shot; and many more that will inspire you with my macho charisma... So message me... (Do it quick before my next court date, I may be off the market after that) P.S. My Parole Officer says I can't consort with you if you have a felony record. P.P.S. I won't write back to you because I just don't care anymore. First DateI pick the time and the place. Make sure I can see you before you see me so I can stand you up if I don't like what I see. Then you can call me later and I can give you a lame excuse like, "My ex-wife was having a crisis". I'll continue to string you along and promise to meet you for drinks again, then no show, this time without an explanation and never acknowledge your e-mails. Your girl friends will tell you that I was intimidated by your beauty and great fashion sense, but really, what straight guy cares about fashion. You'll forget all about me until we bump into each other on-line on some other site. Then I'll tell you how I had some emergency out of town with work and someone stole my laptop. We'll make plans to meet again. This time when we meet I'll aggressively try to get into your pants within the first fifteen minutes. After an hour that feels like five, you will give in and sleep with me hoping that there will be some redeeming value in the sack, but only disappointment lies ahead. I will point and laugh at you for awhile, have sex and then eat everything in your refrigerator.
(Disclaimer: The author of this profile is actually happy. This exercise in creative articulation is not meant to be provocative in a looking for love sense. I'm not answering any e-mail or other correspondance that doesn't offer payment for services rendered...)
what are your thoughts? You have to be very careful when it comes to dating
Posted by Tone Pagan on June 26, 2007 at 01:14 AM EDT #