Dating is confusing for a lot of people. They like this and that about their partner, but not that or this. How does one weigh the odds? If you have to weigh the odds should you be worried? What is the courting stage supposed to feel like? Do you have to be blown away by every kiss? Is there someone out there that is better? The list of questions can be quite long, and sometimes that list pops up before the honeymoon phase even begins!
There are two types of daters that are likely to suffer the most from this form of analysis overload. Romantics get stuck because they have a fantasy of what true love really is. If the date doesn’t fit the mold, will it work? Could it work? Should you run? Should you try to save the date? The great thing about romantics is they try. They really do, and a lot of times things work out for them. They are positive people, those romantics. The other type of dater is one with an indecisive nature. They are open to all options, explore every possibility, and never draw a line in the sand. They are positive people too. They see the potential of a great relationship in just about every one of their dates; it’s just that they aren’t sure if that great relationship would be with them.
Keeping all doors open is a good idea in the beginning of any venture, but at some point you have to close the doors and deal with what’s inside. Yeah, there probably are other potential mates out there that could excite you in one way or another. The reality of settling down isn’t that you found the perfect guy or girl because they don’t exist. The reality is that you’ve found someone who is cool to be with, they treat you the way you want to be treated, AND you trust they’ll work with you on the negotiable(s). It really boils down to this and boiling love down can sound unromantic, at least at first. Making decisions, choices, commitments….not so romantic sounding. The trick is to remember the other person, your mate, the one that has decided to be with you, is choosing you, is committing to you. Sounds romantic when all that decision making is over you, doesn’t it?
So back to the dating can be confusing thing. Yes, it can be confusing, but it really doesn’t have to be.